Books & Writing
So, I did a thing: I wrote a book!
Undesired: Being Left Behind by the Community That Promised Belonging–A LGBTQ+ Self-Help Book
Writing Undesired was something I didn’t expect to do. But after years of quietly sitting with the ache of being overlooked—by dating apps, by gay culture, even by parts of the community that claim to be inclusive—I realized I wasn’t the only one feeling this way. So I decided to write the book I needed.
This is part memoir, part self-help. It’s honest, a little raw, and deeply personal. It’s for anyone who’s ever felt like they didn’t measure up—whether because of age, body type, race, or just not fitting the aesthetic that gets celebrated and centered in queer spaces.
It’s not about bitterness. It’s about naming the experience so we can move through it and, hopefully, toward something healthier and more honest.
If you’ve ever felt invisible in a place that was supposed to make you feel seen—I wrote this for you. I’m proud of this project. Nervous, too, if I’m being real. But if it speaks to even one person out there feeling the same way I did… then it was worth writing.
